Slut Shaming In High School: Wait Until We're All On The Same Page

I honestly dislike judgmental people, but I am not going to lie - I have definitely judged people in my life. Hey, I’m not perfect and we all do it to some extent. What really bothers me is when people start to judge each other on how sexually advanced someone is. Prudes are judged for being very conservative (stereotypically) but I think girls that are more involved with guys are judged way harsher. I think slut shaming is stupid and pointless, especially in high school. I am only a sophomore but what I have observed is that girls are called sluts just for making out with boys that aren't their boyfriends or if things go a little farther than just kissing. But the thing is that people become sexually active at different rates.

I go to a small high school where people in your grade know a lot about you. I grew up with these people, so it makes sense, but what doesn’t make sense is why we judge each other. For example, a boy in my math class let it slip that we hooked up a few times. Then his ex-girlfriend finds out and then people start saying awful things about you. As it turns out, if one person starts to call you a slut, everyone else joins in.

What I find annoying about slut shaming is that just because I might have made out with four guys in my life does not mean that I am going to have sex with any of them. Even if I did it would not be anybody's business.  My point is that in high school you have boys and girls that have not had their first kiss yet or have only kissed their boyfriends/girlfriends but then you also have boys and girls that have don't much, much more. It's impossible to judge someone if you have not been in their situation. If someone is calling another person a slut or another nasty name, then they need to remember that almost the entire population of the Earth will at some point in their life be sexually active in some way. And when you look at it like that, this slut shaming business makes absolutely no sense at all.